My clients will often talk about this anxiety and rage that overwhelms them. Almost like a wild animal in them that they have no control over. It’s not a conscious decision to let this wild animal within them unleash. It comes from something in their situation feeling threatening.
I know my kids want their funny, loving, kind mum back... I want her back too. I miss her. The last few weeks and year has really taken it's toll on all of us. What's your plan for your own recovery?
There’s one more thing that impacts ALL of things when it comes to maternal rage and is universal to all mums. It's the permission you give yourself.
The work I did with my own therapist made me realise that my Banshee arrived when I felt helpless to manage the situation, overwhelmed and fundamentally was in ‘emotional pain’. It wasn't because I was a 'bad mum'.
The issue is the longer you put something off something that you’re worried about… the: - Bigger it becomes - More headspace it consumes - Time it takes up is more time than it should - Money it loses you - More sleep you loose
A lot of my clients come to me often with the description….I just feel like…. I’m struggling/I’m drowning/I’m shouting too quickly/I’ve got a constant knot in my stomach/I’m anxious/I’m not being very nice to my partner/I could be doing it better/I’m not coping/I’m finding work or family difficult/I’m having intrusive thoughts/I’m unable to sleep/I’m ruled by my to do list/I’m burned out or exhausted….. it goes on.... These are the symptoms of ‘overwhelm’ and the day to day impact of your reaction to your current situation.