ONE TO ONE SUPPORT
I offer one to one support therapy and coaching for motherhood, birth and perinatal trauma support and bespoke birth with confidence programme.
One to one support for motherhood
Maybe you are:
- Struggling with your experience or feelings towards being a mum – what you thought motherhood would be (maybe lots of coffee dates, playing in the park, magic moments) is actually feeling like a lot of hard work (constant piles of washing, housework, feeding your kids, babies/children that don’t sleep/behave like they should and no time for you) and you’re fed up with it all
- Feeling completely overwhelmed with the juggle of managing motherhood and life/work (you don’t feel like you’ve got enough time in the day, panicking that you’re dropping balls, feeling resentful that it’s all falling to you and you end up turning to your phone and wine as way to get through it)
- Noticing that you’re anxious, panicked and fearful all the time of all the things that could go wrong (the littlest thing can set of a series of catastrophic thoughts, your on Dr Google about everything, you can’t relax and sleeping when the baby sleeps is just impossible as you’ve got far too much to do)
- Constantly losing your sh*t with fits of your own toddler rage (screaming, throwing things across the room, mega meltdowns over the littlest of things and bed time is just a battle and then at night you lie there beating yourself up about how badly you’ve managed it all)
- Resentful towards your partner (fighting, huffy fits, he/she has it so much easier obviously)
- Worried about returning to work and how you’re going to manage it all (worry about how your child is going to cope, how you can manage a workload on no sleep and still do everything that you are)
- Attached to your to do list to the point it’s controlling everything and not allowing you to just have fun (yes!) and enjoy time with your kids and family as there’s always something to do
- Conscious that it looks like everyone else is nailing motherhood and you feel like you’re just hanging on by the skin of your teeth
Together we will help you to:
- Get curious about what’s really going on – why is it you’re feeling this way?
- Overcome any emotional blocks/beliefs/values which are constantly you driving to continue to push yourself to your maximum capacity and stopping you from looking after yourself
- Build up a toolkit of ways to manage this situation
- Increase your confidence and feelings of self worth
- Be more self compassionate to yourself and recognise all you ARE doing rather than
- Work out solutions to your situation
Working together will help you to feel:
- Amazing – you’ll realise how much you are actually doing and how well you’re doing (believe me!)
- Like you can keep it together (most of the time – you are human after all)
- A weight has been lifted off your shoulders
- Calmer, more relaxed and free
- Happier and content
- That you have more time and energy to do more of what you want to do
- Confident as a mother and human
- Able to place solid boundaries where they’re needed
Investment is £1200 (can be paid in three instalments) and includes:
- 90 minute sessions three times a month for three months on zoom
- Mentoring via WhatsApp and email for three full months
- Access to my membership (Overcome the Overload) for three months which includes – 2 group EFT sessions a week, monthly group coaching sessions, regular guest interviews, 2 masterclasses a month, community support and a phenomenal library of resources specifically for overwhelmed mums
Approaches:
These sessions will incorporate a mixture of therapies including EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), REWIND, Solutions Focussed Brief Therapy, Internal Family Systems, Coaching, Mentoring and additional tools and approaches as required
“I am so grateful to have discovered Tricia. She has been a great crutch in tough times and a very supportive EFT teacher. Learning basics of EFT has brought me a great sense of empowerment and a few minutes of daily use help me keep my long term anxiety in check for the first time in years. Every so often I touch base with a one-to-one session to check how things are or delve a little deeper and feel a huge improvement to my quality of life. Thank you Tricia for your support and and you judgement-free and humorous approach.”
"Having had my first baby during lockdown, I struggled with loneliness and how difficult the situation had been and how different things were to how I had expected and planned. I lost a lot of confidence in myself and felt like a burden to my family and friends so I reached out to Tricia as a starting point to clear my head and “vent”, having been recommended her by a friend. I am SO glad that I did - firstly, I felt like we’d known each other for a long time which helped me open up and really try new techniques to overcome my issues. Tricia was open, kind and friendly and I feel completely got what I was trying to achieve instantly. Working together was a breath of fresh air (although I appreciate being pushed out my comfort zone at times) to get the results we had set out to achieve. I feel so much better and more like myself. My head feels clearer and I feel stronger to socialise and enjoy exercise again. Thank you."
Birth and Perinatal Trauma Support
Around one in three mums/parents describe their birth as traumatic with around 4% of parents developing PTSD in the perinatal period.
If you’re experiencing any of these feeling it could be you have experienced birth or perinatal trauma:
- Heightened level of anxiety
- Hypervigilance
- Not bonding with your baby
- Relationship problems with your partner/family
- Inability to cope day-to-day
- Postnatal depression/anxiety/PTSD
- Flashbacks
- Numbness
- Disassociation
- Inability to sleep
- Restlessness
- Not want to have another baby
- Don’t want to have any sexual relationship
I can help you with 3 Step REWIND technique and/or EFT.
Working together will help you to feel:
- As though you can talk about your experience without big emotions
- Free from the experience as though you can file the memory away like any other memory
- Lighter as all the emotions associated with the memory have been lifted
- Calmer, relaxed and able to think more clearly
- More present with your baby/children as you can focus on the now
- Compassionate towards yourself and everything you’ve been through
- Able to plan for any further pregnancies
- In control of your life and get on with it again
- Positive towards the experience and remember some of the good things that did happen
- Improve your sleep
Investment is £330.
“Tricia came through general recommendation from my midwife. I’d been struggling with PTSD symptoms from my daughter’s birth which were coming to the fore during my second pregnancy. I felt really unsure what was going to work as I’d already tried a few weeks of an NHS course which I felt was too general for my specific birth trauma.
Tricia clearly explained the process of REWIND therapy to me on our initial call and I felt at ease with her from the get-go. Being a mum and all the birth experience she has as a doula allowed me to feel listened too and it was easy for me to open up to her.
REWIND is one of the most powerful things I’ve ever gone through. I found the release hugely cathartic as it allowed me to remember the strength I had and the positives I had experienced within a really hard time.
Tricia was so careful with me and her guidance was amazing. After two sessions, I was feeling so much better and we had another call after two weeks to see how I was doing. I’m so pleased to say it’s completely worked for me. I still recognise what I went through but it’s without the fear and upset I was experiencing. That wouldn’t have happened without Tricia.”
One to one support for birthing with confidence
One to one support is the right support for you if you are:
- Feeling anxious about how painful birth might be
- Scared and confused
- Wanting a better birth than your last birth
- Planning a vaginal birth after caesarean (VBAC/HBAC)?
- Contemplating a homebirth and would like to discuss it with someone?
- Looking for independent support for Caesarean, Breech, Twins, VBAC/HBAC or any other non-standard birth
Or maybe you’re just not sure and you’d like someone to spend time going through all the birth options and scenarios with you to help feel super confident about birth.
Birth is such a momentous time and a cornerstone of your experience as a woman and mother. It can affect your life in so many ways both in the short and long term. I’ve yet to meet a woman who isn’t at least a little bit apprehensive about birth. You’re not alone in feeling like this! And sometimes the care we receive doesn’t help ease these feelings, neglecting our needs as individuals.
“FOR FAR TOO MANY, PREGNANCY AND BIRTH IS STILL SOMETHING THAT HAPPENS TO THEM RATHER THAN SOMETHING THEY SET OUT CONSCIOUSLY AND JOYFULLY TO DO THEMSELVES” - SHEILA KITZINGER
Working together I will help you to feel:
- Confident in your decisions around birth including place of birth, pain relief, mode of birth, all choices and decisions
- Informed about birth and how to ensure that your birth preferences are supported
- Able to have the best birth on the day and including understanding what makes birth quicker, less painful and easier
- Excited about giving birth, regardless of where, how or when – you will be beaming the moment you go into labour
- That you have a toolkit you can quickly use on the day
And I can support your partner/partners to best support you because it’s a huge responsibility for them too.
Investment is £550 and includes:
- Four 60-90 minute sessions
- A huge toolkit of resources
- Free online courses for birth, breastfeeding, weaning
- Access to books where requested/available
- Email and voicemail support right up until you give birth
- Telephone debrief after you give birth
One off sessions can be booked in for caesarean birth planning and this costs £120 for a 90 minute session.
“I came across the Tricia’s preparation programme when pregnant on my second child. I was about 30 weeks and my midwife was asking more about mode of delivery and suddenly my first son’s emergency c section delivery, that I thought was “dealt with” came flooding back and all the negative elements of it were full force on my mind. I was terrified of the idea of dealing with medical staff , of not feeling listened to and having to be in hospital full stop. I didn’t know what to do with all these thoughts and feelings and just thought I’ll have to go with the flow again and hope for a better experience. Not so!! I did some preparation work with Tricia and felt I clicked with her from the start. Through chatting and tapping with EFT about my anxieties and using her endless list of people and resources, I changed from the midwife who I wasn’t happy with, decided on and organised a home birth, and most importantly got my husband on board too with the idea. Tricia gave a lot of support to my husband too by means of information, people to contact regarding his fears around a home birth. We had the HBAC birth we wanted and felt assertive and in control the whole way as a result of realising and dealing with our fears. I’m really glad I did the coaching programme with Tricia as I feel a lot more assertive in general around dealing with professionals even now when it comes to me or my kids.”
Aislinn Wilson
Client