The irony of ‘I don’t have enough time’

When I ask people what is the biggest barrier to overcoming overwhelm?  Is it money, you don’t know how, you don’t have the tools, you don’t have the time or something else…. Almost every single person says… I don’t have time.

Time or lack of time IS ONE OF THE BIGGEST ISSUES WE ARE COMPETING WITH yet the irony of the it never ceases to amaze me.

Yet, women who aren’t overwhelmed aren’t faced with this problem.

There’s one KEY area that women who have overCOME overwhelm have in common… and it’s the ability to emotionally regulate themselves.

Emotional regulation is when we’re able to respond in a calm and measured way, it means we’re not highly anxious ‘alert’ all the time and we’re not numb and hiding (in a ‘flop’) state all the time… It means we are living in a calm nervous state (some people call this the ‘rest and digest’ or parasympathetic nervous state).

When we are able to regulate ourselves… it means we can listen, we can process information easily, we can communicate, we can think clearly, we are motivated, we can focus, we can prioritise and we can rationalise.

That narrative that we don’t have time is because when you are unable to regulate yourself, you’re unable to do all those things.

There are lots of different ways you can support your body to feel calmer and more regulated…here’s a few….

  • I personally feel EFT/Emotional Freedom Technique/tapping is one of the best because it works directly with the nervous system to regulate yourself
  • Learning to breathe properly and using breathwork is another
  • Meditation and mindfulness can be helpful
  • Yoga is fantastic here too and incorporates the breath
  • But so is nurturing space for you – that is daily time out to read/journal/chill etc with nothing going on in your head (including no mobile phone/watching the news etc).

If you’re struggling with overwhelm and you don’t know where to start and want to gain back time, you may be interested in signing up for my 3 month programme for overwhelmed mums.  Investing in this programme will make significant changes to your family life supporting you to feel calmer and more relaxed.  When we’re able to handle our own emotions and triggers, it has a massive benefit for our whole family and relationships and ripples out to the wider community and society.

Much love, Tricia xxx

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