On Friday my husband announced to all the kids – Mum’s right – we should all be journalling (he read a Harvard study).
No shit batman.
One of my favourite books is Atomic Habits by James Clear (he does a brilliant regular weekly email which you should sign up for to).
His approach is that small everyday habits are what creates change and that those changes shape your identity.
I’m always really fascinated by identity and anxiety.
When you think about an anxious person and a calm person – they have completely different habits.
Journaling is ONE of my DAILY habits which stops anxiety because it allows me to process all my crazy thoughts.
Here’s a non-exhaustive list to exemplify…..
|
Calm Habit |
Anxious Habit |
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Drinking water |
Drinking coffee |
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Eating well |
Stuffing in the biscuits or sandwich in two mins flat |
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Making time for – Journaling/EFT/Meditation/ Mindfulness/Reading |
Cramming in too much |
|
Focussed and realistic action – achievable goal setting |
Making your to do list a full time job |
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Dividing and delegating chores appropriately |
Believing no one else is capable of doing your jobs or feeling scared to ask |
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Seeking help/creating short cuts – cleaner, online shopping, childcare |
Doing all the jobs or feeling guilty about asking for help |
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Yoga/Running/Exercise |
Scrolling on social media |
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Having less things |
Buying/consumption |
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Being in the moment |
Always planning |
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Getting comfortable with ‘good enough’ |
Perfection |
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Being able to see the bigger picture |
Focussing on the minutia |
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Simplifying life |
Overcomplicating things |
I want you though to think about very clearly – what habits are you doing TODAY which don’t support the identity that you want.
If you want a ‘calm identity’ – what habits can you instil that will support you?
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Much love, Tricia xxx
