On Friday my husband announced to all the kids – Mum’s right – we should all be journalling (he read a Harvard study).
No shit batman.
One of my favourite books is Atomic Habits by James Clear (he does a brilliant regular weekly email which you should sign up for to).
His approach is that small everyday habits are what creates change and that those changes shape your identity.
I’m always really fascinated by identity and anxiety.
When you think about an anxious person and a calm person – they have completely different habits.
Journaling is ONE of my DAILY habits which stops anxiety because it allows me to process all my crazy thoughts.
Here’s a non-exhaustive list to exemplify…..
Stuffing in the biscuits or sandwich in two mins flat
Making time for – Journaling/EFT/Meditation/ Mindfulness/Reading
Cramming in too much
Focussed and realistic action – achievable goal setting
Making your to do list a full time job
Dividing and delegating chores appropriately
Believing no one else is capable of doing your jobs or feeling scared to ask
Seeking help/creating short cuts – cleaner, online shopping, childcare
Doing all the jobs or feeling guilty about asking for help
Scrolling on social media
Having less things
Being in the moment
Getting comfortable with ‘good enough’
Being able to see the bigger picture
Focussing on the minutia
I want you though to think about very clearly – what habits are you doing TODAY which don’t support the identity that you want.
If you want a ‘calm identity’ – what habits can you instil that will support you?
Much love, Tricia xxx