When your inner critic kicks in – this can be a useful exercise

I was chatting to a client last week and we had a conversation about goals.

One of the things I’ve noticed, is that the inner critic is very good at reminding you and giving you a hard time for not getting where you want to be.  It also seems to ideally forget how far you’ve come and what obstacles you’ve had to overcome.

Life is permanently changing. 

You all have new things to overcome – that’s life.  

You probably didn’t think two years ago you’d need to get through a pandemic.

You might not have two years ago had to deal with a change in your life such as house move, job/career change, relationship change, an illness, new baby or something else.

One of the things you’re probably very good at doing is giving yourself a hard time for not being the person you want to be, yet completely not seeing the shift in you already from where you were to where you are now.

Even if all you’ve done over the last two years is read these emails and changed your thinking in whatever way… that’s a shift forwards.  Or maybe you’ve listened to a podcast series, read some books, done a course or invested in help.  

Sometimes when things get on top of me, I can forget where I’ve got to.

Last year I set myself a goal – something to achieve.  It’s a big goal.  And I’m not there yet.  

My inner critic is very good at reminding me and trying to make me feel like a failure on it.

But here’s where I am – I’m HALF WAY THERE.

If I hadn’t set that goal – I wouldn’t even be HALF WAY THERE – I’d be where I was last year – nowhere near that goal.

I feel goals are so important – both tangible and intangible as they help with progress.  It’s one of the first things I ask my clients when they book – ‘what would tell you our work together was successful’.

I know for so many of you, you might still think you’re no where near where you want to be, but I bet you’re still propelling forward.

Here’s an exercise I do (not often enough!!!)… I reflect on how far I’ve come.

This might be something you can do today – either written in a journal (preferably) or else just think it through before you go to sleep tonight or when you wake tomorrow.

Reflect over the last two years (because all of us have learned so much in the last two years)…

– What lessons have you learned?

– What things have gone well?

– What have you learned about yourself?

– What 5/10/more things are you proud of about yourself?

– What is something two years ago you wouldn’t have done but you’ve managed to do today?

– What wisdom/advice would you give yourself two years ago?

I’d love to know how you find this exercise and how it makes you feel.

If you’re like to get started today and shift your thinking and beliefs – check out my free resources library.

Much love, Tricia xxx 

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