How are you doing? I’m back finally in the uk and it’s so good to be back. Cooler weather, yoga classes, my own bed, salt and vinegar crisps, wifi and my work/purpose.
As I come back to work, I’m heading into my busy season of work which is always September to May. I’m working with three new clients starting this month and a birth trauma client as well as continuing/completing the clients I worked with before the summer.
Something that’s been coming up in conversations I’m having with people is the shame about your behaviour.
I want to share some thoughts on ‘bad’ behaviour.
Not from your kids. Your ‘bad’ behaviour.
Adult bad behaviour.
Such as….
- Shouting.
- Rage.
- Ignoring.
- Being passive agressive.
- Being mean.
- Being sarcastic.
- Slamming doors or drawers.
- Avoiding.
- Manipulating.
- Being anxious.
- Moaning.
- Feeling resentment.
- Crying.
- Bitching.
- Bullying.
- Isolating.
- Being stuck in bed.
If you are human – you will do one if not multiple things from the list above and possibly other things too.
Here’s the thing.
No behaviour is without gain or without reason.
All behaviour is purposeful even if it’s illogical and you can’t understand ‘why’ you’re like this.
Behaviour is linked to your situation and how you feel at that moment in time.
When you’re not being the best version of yourself and in fact, a very low version of yourself, it’s because a part of you is in pain and this behaviour is a protective function to support you (even if it’s actually making it worse!).
Read that again – it’s because you’re in emotional pain.
The work you need to do is find out what that pain is.
Sometimes it’s super clear.
Other times it’s not. It’s layered, complex and messy.
No bad behaviour is just because you feel like it. It’s a cry out for the emotional pain you’re in.
If you’re fed up with your ‘bad’ behaviour and you want help to get you from where you are now (ie in emotional pain) to where you want to be (ie calm, happy, fulfilled, fun etc) then get in touch below.
Much love, Tricia xxx
