One thing you can do to help you through these crazy times

These are bat shit crazy times. You can’t make it up.

Apart from deleting twitter off your phone and not consuming any news… it can hard to know what to do and I certainly at times go between rage and helplessness and disbelief.

The tendency for you might be to numb out even more on social media, stop seeing your friends as much, drink more, eat more shit, not exercise and get even more overwhelmed by all the small stuff that really don’t matter.  

You’re possibly feeling anxious, deflated, fed up and angry and frustrated at times.

I see you.  

I’ve worked with women for long enough to know what happens.

It was like in lockdown – there’s a tendency to freeze when everything gets too much.

The nervous system is like – that’s enough now and freezes.

Yet the reality is you can’t stop. You can’t freeze and hide under the duvet until the bat shit crazy is over.

You have roles and responsibilities to fulfil.

It’s easy to get stuck in the vicious cycle of overwhelm and freeze/anger.

But there’s one simple thing you can do.

Get clear on focussing in on what makes you a nice person.

When you’re a nice person – that means that you ripple out being nice to other people.

And we need that now more than ever.

Let me illustrate.

I am a mum to 4 boys and dog, I have a husband who has quite an intense job, I work 3.5 days a week and have a lot to juggle.

When I’m overwhelmed – that might mean I’m a bit shouty at the kids, I don’t have patience for all the little things they need me for, I struggle to communicate with my husband, I can spend up to 6 hours a day on social media scrolling especially twitter or switching obsessively between apps, I can’t be bothered making time to see people (as I allegedly have no time), I can’t get out of bed, I eat a lot of crisps.

When I’m a nice person – that might mean I can laugh with the kids, I can make time for all the little things, I want to chat to my husband about what’s going on, I’m using my phone with purpose, I see my friends and family and I get up in the morning and do my morning routine, I have fantastic client sessions, meal prep, eat well and generally feel on fire.

What makes me a nice person – space, yoga, coaching, journaling, EFT, fresh air, sea swims, saunas, self development, reading, time with good friends and family

How do I know they make me a nice person – because when I do them – I can manage whatever is going on in my crazy home and am able to actually laugh about it and gain perspective quite quickly when things go a bit weird.

I know how suddenly that question might feel overwhelming in itself – what makes me a nice person?

Sit with it.

Think about the things you do and when you do them how it filters throughout your life. It might be a night out with pals, the cinema, theatre, choir, crochet, running, cycling or book club or wine club, bungee jumping – who knows.

None of us are the same person.

Focus on you without judgement.

Experiment.

Identify what works and then do more of it.

Much love, Tricia xxx

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