I don’t have all the answers

Happy new year to you!

I hope that you had a great new year and you’re slowly moving in 2024 with kindness to you.

For a long time I’ve been aware of how marketing for “organisational” stuff is directed at women

What I mean is:

  • The organised mum method
  • The batch lady
  • The five minute mum 
  • Stacey Solomon – Sort your life out
  • Marie Kondo
  • Countless parenting books – all marketed at women
  • … and so many more – these were just the ones that came into my head this morning.

 All of them are directed at women. I’ve yet to see the organised dad method, the batch gentleman, the five minute dad or any decluttering advice sent in the direction of men.

Whilst I know there’s a lot of good can come out of these resources and some of my clients swear by them…. What I really want to get under is why is all of this stuff is our responsibility.  When did that happen? How can we change it? Why do we buy into it? Why do we overload ourselves with so much information. It’s totally overwhelming.  

In the last few years I have worked so much on my mind and even in the last 12 months – I feel like I am the strongest I have ever been mentally. I barely cry anymore. I rarely shout.  I’m able to get out of bed easily most of the time.  I laugh a lot.  

I’ve had some really effective conversations with my husband and we work really well as a team. I could list all the things he does all the the time, but that’s not what I’m interested in.

What I’m interested in is why I take the burden of responsibility all the time. Even when I know better, even when my husband is like ‘WTAF now’, even when my kids are like ‘MUUUUUUMMMM’…. I still comply and conform to expectations placed on me by some external force that really don’t matter or aren’t important. It’s entirely like autopilot and the autopilot is what I want to stop for me AND for all of you.

If you want to know more about how I can support you this year, please see below.

Much love, Tricia xxx 

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