Often the issue is you don’t actually understand the insane conditions you’re under. It’s normalised by society.
In amongst the ‘what to expect when you’re expecting’…. You’re not given a book that says ‘what to expect when you’re parenting in insane conditions’.
The first thing I want you to know – that there is nothing wrong with you. The way you feel is not because of anything you’re doing wrong. There is nothing wrong with you. Nothing at all.
BUT there’s a lot you can do to make motherhood easier and for you to thrive as a mum. This isn’t more things to do (aka mass self-care tasks, decluttering, batch cooking, organisation methods) – this is about doing less and thriving.
That, however, means….
- Making different decisions to everyone else
- Imperfection
- Having difficult conversations
- Investing in help and support
- Being selfish
12 years ago I was in the midst of PND/Anxiety/overwhelm/burn out. I was a shouty and shitty mum. I think I might have been about 3 months into anti-depressants.
At NO POINT did anyone explain to me why I was feeling the way I was feeling and what I could do about it. I was sent for counselling and it didn’t touch the sides. What helped me most was getting back to work because for those 2.5 days a week – I was Tricia. It’s partly why when I work with people – my focus is always on action – what needs to change.
The reason I got into this work was to help other mums. Originally as a doula and since 2015 as a coach.
In that time I’ve helped hundreds (maybe thousands now) of mums to be calmer, have way more fun and enjoy your life – AND have better relationships with their kids. And I’ve helped myself and my family.
If you would like support too, get in touch.
Much love, Tricia xxx
