The reason motherhood is hard is because you’re parenting under insane conditions

Often the issue is you don’t actually understand the insane conditions you’re under.  It’s normalised by society.  

In amongst the ‘what to expect when you’re expecting’…. You’re not given a book that says ‘what to expect when you’re parenting in insane conditions’. 

The first thing I want you to know – that there is nothing wrong with you.  The way you feel is not because of anything you’re doing wrong.  There is nothing wrong with you. Nothing at all.

BUT there’s a lot you can do to make motherhood easier and for you to thrive as a mum.  This isn’t more things to do (aka mass self-care tasks, decluttering, batch cooking, organisation methods) – this is about doing less and thriving.  

That, however, means….

  • Making different decisions to everyone else
  • Imperfection
  • Having difficult conversations
  • Investing in help and support
  • Being selfish

12 years ago I was in the midst of PND/Anxiety/overwhelm/burn out. I was a shouty and shitty mum. I think I might have been about 3 months into anti-depressants.  

At NO POINT did anyone explain to me why I was feeling the way I was feeling and what I could do about it. I was sent for counselling and it didn’t touch the sides. What helped me most was getting back to work because for those 2.5 days a week – I was Tricia. It’s partly why when I work with people – my focus is always on action – what needs to change.

The reason I got into this work was to help other mums. Originally as a doula and since 2015 as a coach.  

In that time I’ve helped hundreds (maybe thousands now) of mums to be calmer, have way more fun and enjoy your life – AND have better relationships with their kids. And I’ve helped myself and my family.

If you would like support too, get in touch.

Much love, Tricia xxx

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