It starts with noticing

One of the things I’ve learned over the years is I need to NOTICE how I’m feeling REGULARLY – not just in the moment.

Such as –

Sometimes I get stuck on my phone – I need to notice why I’m doing that – is it because I feel ‘frozen’, ‘overwhelmed’, ‘fed up’, ‘disassociating’, ‘anxious’ – what’s happening to make me feel that way?

Sometimes I feel on edge and it might be the times I end up shouting at the kids or my husband or making a mistake somewhere – I need to notice why I’m on edge and sit with it – is it because something is happening in a part of my life, is it because I’m tired, it is because I haven’t eaten, is it because I’m worried about my parents or kids or something else?

Sometimes I feel like I just cannot be bothered – I need to notice why because these might be the times I shout at the kids – is it because I haven’t moved enough, is it because I feel like things aren’t working out, is it because it feels too hard, is it because I’ve not had enough time off or doing enough joyful stuff or have I not eaten well enough?

Because once I have insight – then I can do something about it.

Like if I’ve not been doing enough joyful stuff – I need to do more joyful stuff.

We can often end up as victims – moaning and groaning about various things.  I know this has absolutely been me.

“I don’t have time”, “I don’t have space”, “I don’t have energy”, “I’m so overwhelmed”, “I’m so fed up”, “I feel so down”.

The thing is… after all the moaning and groaning – I’ve still felt… well shit. It’s not changed anything.

Here’s the thing…  you can create time, space, energy.

You need to take radical responsibility to create change.

If you’re waiting for someone else to sort it out – you’re going to be waiting a very long time.

You need to create change. But it starts with noticing.

Much love, Tricia xxx

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