Stuck in the stickiness…

Stuck in the stickiness…

How’s your week been? I’m in a mega juggling week… kids on exam leave (who knew how hard that would be!), recovering from a virus, husband away and an incredibly busy period at work. Last week was probably one of the first weeks I didn’t send out my weekly email in...

My Experience with Belief Coding

My Experience with Belief Coding

You may have heard about Belief Coding and are wondering what it is and whether it's legit. I've got you. In this article I talk about my experiences of using it in my practice. I also cover some of the most common conserns my clients have expressed about it. My...

What does confidence really look like?

What does confidence really look like?

Confession time. One of the pieces of work I often do is a future you visualisation. It’s part of solutions focussed brief therapy is embodying the you that you want to be. Something in the last week shifted when I saw someone else talking about it and I realised that...

Which wolf are you feeding?

Which wolf are you feeding?

I’ve shared this parable before (a long time ago)… but want to share it from a slightly different perspective.  I love love love this parable.   Tale of the two wolves….  The story features two characters: a grandfather and his grandson. The grandfather explains to...

You might have confidence all wrong

You might have confidence all wrong

Imagine this - you walk into a room and there’s someone there that’s welcoming you, up at the bar singing and dancing, making jokes and is loud. You might believe that person is confident. And she might be confident. She also might be masking massive insecurities. Her...

The importance of having the courage to be disliked

The importance of having the courage to be disliked

One of the things I’ve come to recognise over the years is how important it is to have the courage to be disliked. I know that might not go down well.   And truthfully when I think about it it unsettles me - like nails going down a blackboard. I can feel I want to...

It starts with noticing

It starts with noticing

One of the things I’ve learned over the years is I need to NOTICE how I’m feeling REGULARLY - not just in the moment. Such as - Sometimes I get stuck on my phone - I need to notice why I’m doing that - is it because I feel ‘frozen’, ‘overwhelmed’, ‘fed up’,...

95% of what you do is based on this

95% of what you do is based on this

Did you know that 95% of our actions are based not on what you choose to do but is based on what your subconscious chooses that you do? Sometimes this is SO helpful - you don’t really have to ‘think’ what you’re doing in the morning to get you out the house - your...