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Overwhelm
How much time do you spend on imaginary thinking?

How much time do you spend on imaginary thinking?

One of my clients was telling me about how she lay awake literally all night having imaginary conversations about an potential ‘confrontation’ with a colleague only to wake up the next again day and find out it had all been resolved. She’s not alone. Many of the women...

Old actions don’t bring new results

Old actions don’t bring new results

Many people come to me because they are dissatisfied with many parts of their lives. They know they want "something", but they don’t know how to get it or make it better. Through our work together - the thing that makes the biggest difference is changing what the...

The unspoken rules that cause distress

The unspoken rules that cause distress

"When do you not need to invite the whole class to a party?" This was a question another mum asked me on Sunday at a kids birthday party. It made me realise that there’s so many ‘unspoken’ rules in life. Yet it’s these unspoken rules that are the ones that cause us so...

Ending the cycle of stress, anxiety and burnout

Ending the cycle of stress, anxiety and burnout

Finding a woman who isn’t in this vortex of stress/anxiety and burnout is rare. It’s almost like a needle in a haystack. I can see it amongst all the women that ever enter my life whether it’s clients, family, friends, colleagues, neighbours - everyone. It’s prevalent...

Why masking your anxiety can lead to burnout

Why masking your anxiety can lead to burnout

I was speaking with a client today who was describing a repeated pattern of burn out after periods of stress/overwhelm (what I’d call anxiety, but this was their term). I don’t think we talk enough about how masking anxious feelings really impacts us. Partly because...

Do you feel like you can handle whatever comes your way?

Do you feel like you can handle whatever comes your way?

I’ve been working with a variety of clients at the moment - from food anxiety to health anxiety to relationship anxiety to general anxiety… and there’s been a shift in thinking this week that I’ve loved…  “Even if this [awful] thing happens - I can handle it” Imagine...

Anxiety makes you feel, think and do crazy things

Anxiety makes you feel, think and do crazy things

That anxiety makes you feel, think and do crazy things. But often you don’t understand that what’s making you feel, think and do crazy things is anxiety. 
You think it’s because of what’s happening TO you rather than what’s happening IN you.   I’ll illustrate. Last...

6 things to help you when you’re struggling

6 things to help you when you’re struggling

September 2011, I had a total breakdown. I had 3 kids under 3, I was a total crossroads about what I was doing with work, there was a lot of ‘stuff’ going on internally, I felt totally unsupported by everyone and a martyr to motherhood. I had rage, anxiety,...