How’s your week been? I’m in a mega juggling week… kids on exam leave (who knew how hard that would be!), recovering from a virus, husband away and an incredibly busy period at work. Last week was probably one of the first weeks I didn’t send out my weekly email in...
Confession time. One of the pieces of work I often do is a future you visualisation. It’s part of solutions focussed brief therapy is embodying the you that you want to be. Something in the last week shifted when I saw someone else talking about it and I realised that...
I’ve shared this parable before (a long time ago)… but want to share it from a slightly different perspective. I love love love this parable. Tale of the two wolves…. The story features two characters: a grandfather and his grandson. The grandfather explains to...
One of the things I’ve come to recognise over the years is how important it is to have the courage to be disliked. I know that might not go down well. And truthfully when I think about it it unsettles me - like nails going down a blackboard. I can feel I want to...
One of the things I’ve learned over the years is I need to NOTICE how I’m feeling REGULARLY - not just in the moment. Such as - Sometimes I get stuck on my phone - I need to notice why I’m doing that - is it because I feel ‘frozen’, ‘overwhelmed’, ‘fed up’,...
Often the issue is you don’t actually understand the insane conditions you’re under. It's normalised by society. In amongst the ‘what to expect when you’re expecting’…. You’re not given a book that says ‘what to expect when you’re parenting in insane conditions’. ...
The thing everyone has - yet it doesn't exist. It’s not imposter syndrome. It’s this. Fear. When you have a clear cut process how to manage fear - you can overcome it - easily. Every single client I’ve worked with has had some sort of ‘imposter syndrome’. It must be...
I was out walking with a friend on Friday. We were talking about how some people pretend that they don’t know or don’t see you yet you know they have. We’ve all done it and had it done to us. Right? I said to her - I know when someone walks past me… that I know… and...
Most of the clients I know when they come to work with me have an internal ping-pong match happening within them. You’ll probably recognise this as you’ve maybe got this internal bully too? ‘How could you be so stupid’ ‘It’s all your fault that….’ ‘I can’t believe you...